I heard this - "The Sower sows the seeds - what seeds are we sowing by our speaking over our family?"

Are we speaking life giving words? Do we have a tongue of kindness? (Prov 31:26)

Proverbs 15:4 AMP
A soothing tongue [speaking words that build up and encourage] is a tree of life, But a perversive tongue [speaking words that overwhelm and depress] crushes the spirit.

Proverbs 18:21 AMPC
Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and they who indulge in it shall eat the fruit of it [for death or life].

Ephesians 4:29 NCV
When you talk, do not say harmful things, but say what people need—words that will help others become stronger. Then what you say will do good to those who listen to you.